I need to hit the hay, but I wanted to say a few things here before I head off:
1) After a little elbow grease and one box of L'Oreal Natural Match hair color in 8C, my new hair looks MUCH better. My highlights are still definitely noticeable, but now they're a much more subtle and sophisticated shade of neutral dark blonde, instead of the vivid orange streaks they were before. So yay. It all worked out okay. :)
2) We ended up going with kind of an 80's-meets-short-bus look for Chris' birthday party. I wore big fluffy hairsprayed 80's hair, teal/gold irredecent eyeshadow, a necklace with animal print glass beads, a plastic Hard Candy ring (you know, from their nail polish back in the day), and a hot pink long-sleeved shirt under a kelly green "MAKE 7 / UP YOURS" t-shirt. With regular gray pants and blue tennies.
Brett wore a mustard yellow Rose Bowl t-shirt from 1981 with a cherry red polo on top. And his regular jeans and tennies.
We had a really great time, ate some really great food (but played no pong), and still got home with enough time to get a few things done before heading to bed.
3) Brett wants to shave his head. After all the summers of pooh-poohing my "cheeky summer do" buzz cut suggestions, all of the sudden in APRIL he wants to shave it all off. down to stubble. Because he thinks it'll feel cool.
Normally I'd say do what you want to do, but two things concern me about this decision right now. The first (and most important) is that he still needs to maintain an image of professionalism at work, and he's not just a grunt anymore. He IS somebody. And he aspires to be an even bigger somebody. Would a shaved head remind them too much of his youthful quirkiness?
And even if it would be an okay look to wear to work, there's still the second reason for my concern: my mom's staunchly conservative dad and his lovely conservative wife will be visiting with us on the Oregon coast in two weeks, and they haven't seen either of us in years.
My grandpa HATES fat chicks so I'm already stressed out anticipating his reaction to my fatness; he doesn't like The Gays and we have an HRC window sticker on our hippie rice burner car; he has strange ideas about some minority groups and we've just recently found out that Brett is mixed (surprise!); and he's pretty not-liberal and we're pretty much only liberal. In other words, we already have like 8,000 strikes against us - does he really need to shave his head too? I asked him to at least wait until after we get back from the coast to do it, and he agreed, but now I feel bad about it.
What do you think - should Brett shave his head now; professionalism and stodgy old codger be damned?
4 comments:
I'm glad your hair worked out OK with the salon and Loreal dye combo. I hope it gets better next month too.
Re: Brett's hair. Ummm, I think it would be odd. Maybe he should try it in like July and then get a really short haircut to see if he really likes himself with almost NO hair before going BALD.
Maybe I'm just a codger too. Also: I finally updated my blog.
Bald is the new codger. I think bald only works for people who have started to go bald anyways. Their heads look nicer bald. I wouldn't worry about looking professional and all that, as long as there are no piercings and tattoos he'll still look professional. There are a lot of people in the IT world that shave their heads bald thinking it would be cool, but I'm not sure it was successful. I've always wanted to shave my head, but for a long time the skin under my hair was way too white and would take too long to not look gross.
As far as gramps goes: who cares what he thinks? Fine, I'm sure you should care, but you shouldn't stress out about the crazy prejudices he has unless he would kill you or something because of them. You should go their and be fat, be bald, and tell him you guys have started an open bisexual relationship with one lesbian couple and another gay couple and you are going to adopt black babies, vote libertarian, and you're going to start a hemp business as your sole source of income.
Shantastical: I agree with you on the idea that it would somehow be better in the summertime, and also not quite so bald. I suggested these things to Brett, to no avail. I suggested leaving maybe 1/2" of hair, but he said the novelty of it for him is that it would be almost completely gone. I think he said he wanted it about 1/8" long. :O
I'll check out your blog. :)
Toner: I agree with you on the whole "bald is for baldies" thing. Though I actually think baldingish guys sometimes look better with a nice neat haircut than they do with a cue ball. Unless they're Patrick Stewart, and then it looks awesome.
You also make a good point about scalp paleness - I will pass it on.
I hear you on the "who cares what he thinks" stand, but you know...it's always nice to get that familial stamp of approval. I just want to be liked, dammit. Liked by everyone. If it all goes to shit though, or I feel that I'm not getting enough attention, I'll be sure to use your slutty lessie gay black libertarian hemp suggestion. Thought I think liberal is more threatening than libertarian, because it's the taxes that piss him off the most. Maybe I'll even toss in something about wanting to buy a yurt and live off the fat o' the land (with some gob'ment cheese thrown in for good measure), but as vegans. And then I'll ask him for money.
I'll weigh in a bit on this topic. since i'm not asleep yet for some reason. I forgot about the blue scalp problem. i don't have any idea how blue it is under there.. but i'm not planning to have everyone able to see it. i want the hair to be a few millimeters long, so it colors the top of my head.. like one of those stubbly monks in tihbutt. that's what i'm picturing.. maybe that helps some of you.
I don't actually have a problem waiting for oldie mcgramps. he's not actually unpleasant to me, never making political or offensive statements. maybe now that i'm fatter he'll start, but he never has been anything but diplomatic and pleasant. i figure i'll do him the same courtesy.
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