Also, when I was typing in the url to start writing this post, I first wrote "blooger.com" which made me lols. Because I'm 30 years old and still think boogers are funny.
Anyway. The point of this post was to write that I've spent the last hour or so sitting in our living room watching Bones episodes and doing random crap in FB. Brett is in the basement playing some sort of video game. Probably FF[something or other; I think he has them all].
Sooo...I was about to start a new game of Word Twist, when my cellphone rang. With Brett's ring. I answered his call with a, "Nice, dude."
He acknowledged his laziness, and we continued our conversation for another seven minutes or so. During this time, we both agreed that we should get teriyaki takeout for dins, and also managed to select what we wanted from the menu, without ever actually making an effort to see each other face to face. Then I hung up with him so I could place the order, and once I was done, I shouted down the stairs, "TEN MINUTES!" And he shouted back, "K!"
You might attribute this horrible, lazy, anti-social behaviour to the fact that we've been married for eight years, but you'd be wrong. We've always been like this. We're both totally affectionate and romantic, and we're atrociously shameless with the PDA, but back before we were even married, yes, waaay back then, we spent HOURS ICQing each other from dorm rooms that were about twenty feet away from one another. Brett even proposed over ICQ:
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Brett 5/7/00 3:54 PM so do you think we'll get married?
Cat 5/7/00 3:54 PM nah. you forgot my candy.
Cat 5/7/00 3:55 PM ;)
Cat 5/7/00 3:55 PM i don't know, what do you think? i mean, 50%
of the choice IS up to you...
Brett 5/7/00 3:55 PM he heh.. right.. you're so loving.
Brett 5/7/00 3:55 PM well.. i know what i think.. but i don't know
what you think..
Cat 5/7/00 3:55 PM well why don't you tell me what YOU think...
Brett 5/7/00 3:56 PM i'd like to.. as soon as we feel like it.. i
don't know when that would be for you..
Cat 5/7/00 3:57 PM yay...me too. :) but i don't know how
soon...it's expensive, and time consuming...
Brett 5/7/00 3:57 PM it doesn't have to be expensive.. and as for
time, you have 6 months to work and do
whtaever.. who knows.. and it's not like
anyone would be planning alone..
Cat 5/7/00 3:58 PM yeah, okay, so maybe i could do some planning
while i'm not in school...but when would you
feel like getting married? do you know?
Brett 5/7/00 3:59 PM as soon as you want to.. i guess.. i'm so
accustomed to being wiht you.. i don't
remember life any other way.. and it seems a
rather natural transition.. i guess.. you
know..
Cat 5/7/00 4:01 PM it does...it does...so natural...but like,
when would you want to start telling people?
how long should we wait before we tell our
parents? do we need to get rings?
[Blah blah blah about money for awhile, and then...]
Brett 5/7/00 4:12 PM you're so cute.. damn.. ok.. well.. then can
we tell other people? do we even really want
to tell people? ooh, should i do that whole
"will you marry me?" thing? what about that?
Cat 5/7/00 4:14 PM what do you want to do? do YOU want to tell
other people? I'm fine with whoever; as long
as my parents don't find out until i feel like
i can show them that i'm trying to do things
sensibly... you can do the whole will you
marry me thing if you want to, but i'm pretty
sure i'll say yes, so it'd just be like...a
formality or something...what do you think?
Brett 5/7/00 4:16 PM i dont' like formalities.. hey, we could be
special and do it over icq.. wouldn't that be
trashy? um.. i think it's totally cool not to
tell your parents now.. we can not tell mine
too.. until later..
[Blah blah blah about who to tell, and when, and then...]
Cat 5/7/00 4:20 PM cool about [refers to edited text]...agreed about the
formalities, except let's NOT go the trashy
icq route...lets just say that it just kind of
happened gradually, with both of us just
talking about it more and more, 'cause that's
kind of how it happened. you can [refers to edited text] hey...so
um...does this mean you're my fiancee yet?
Brett 5/7/00 4:21 PM yes.. i am.. and you're mine.. ok..
[MORE blah blah blah about who to tell, and when, and then...]
Brett 5/7/00 5:06 PM dinnah, oh beautiful fiancee of mine?
Cat 5/7/00 5:59 PM fiancee....fiancee...fiancee...
Brett 5/7/00 6:00 PM heh heh ehh.. yes.. mmm.. i'm happy..
Cat 5/7/00 6:00 PM me too...i feel a little funny...because it's
new...but funny in a good way...cat jackson...
Brett 5/7/00 6:01 PM that sounds like hte name of some kind of funk
singer..
Cat 5/7/00 6:01 PM i likes it. i've been liking it in my head
for awhile now, actually...
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That's all I feel like sharing. And probably way MORE than anyone feels like reading. But weren't we sooo cute??? And at the time, Brett and I were 20 and 21 years old respectively. Which seems SO FRIGGIN YOUNG to me now! TOO young. But I felt totally grown up then, and pooh poohed anyone who said we were too young to get married. And apparently, I was right to do it! :)
Also, please don't allow the hideous length of this post to deter you from reading the other two posts I've written so far today. You should read alllll of my words! ALL OF THEM!!! ♥
8 comments:
Our conversations were very similar... and I knew it was a good match when they were conversation without any expectation of bended-knee romance. It was more like "Okay you want? I want? I mean... um." Y'know, like your post.
I dated a girl in college who explained to me that her engagement would happen on a bridge in a park, and she'd be wearing a yellow dress. I was like, huh, wow, well, since that's never going to be a situation I'd plan myself, or find myself in, I'm pretty sure your engagement doesn't involve me.
Too bad I continued to date her for a while after that conversation.
Meh. She definitely sounds nuts in that way that some girls are nuts, but I don't see anything wrong with dating someone who you have no intention of marrying. I've certainly done it; it was good times. Very laid back.
icq engagement... that makes me incredibly envious, that it just fell into place like that. ^_^; awesome and wonderful.
Were you at Megan & Aaron's when you wrote that? 'Cause from my end, it almost looks like it was one of them who wrote your comment. Either that, or your IP didn't log at all, and Megaron was looking at the same post as you at exactly the same time.
Anyhoo. Now that I've made myself sound 100% creeptastic...
I think our ICQ engagement is sort of a testament to the fact that a good relationship doesn't have to necessarily be the kind of storybook romance some people might've grown up expecting to have. There are as many different kinds of good relationships as there are people to have them.
For me, if someone is all pomp and circumstance and diamonds for Christmas and roses for Valentine's Day, it feels a little shallow and artificial. I need everything to feel easy, honest, and personal. But some people really like those types of more traditional gifts, and they're genuinely happy to receive them.
I don't really know where I'm going with this, actually. :/ I guess I'm just trying to say: I've found that it helps things go well if I keep my focus on what I want, know the dif between what I want and what I NEED, and try to avoid getting mixed up about what *I* want/need, and what I perceive as the "norm," or as other people's expectations for me.
Actually...I apply that rule to many aspects of my life, not just my love life. :) It's a pretty good rule for most things.
I'M A FRIGGIN GENIUS.
So... to recap -- You DID go the "trashy ICQ" route, and managed to hide it for 9 years, but then decided to tell everyone? By which I mean, that's adorable, of course.
I'm gonna go get mahsewf a diet Bacon Coke now.
Ugh, Jon. I STILL can't believe you got up at 4:30am and drove to Spocompton. Fuckin nuts, dude. I hope you stopped somewhars for breakies.
And more on-topic: We didn't really hide it - whenever anyone has asked how he proposed, "ICQ" has always been in my response somewhere.
We SAID we were going to try to hide it and not appear as pathetically geeky as we actually are, but you know me; I'm not good at pretending to be better than I am. Thank God I'm so friggin awesome.
This is so cute. I remember when Brett called me to tell me and before he even said anything about you, I could just tell that he was going to tell me you too were engaged. But I forgot it was ICQ-y. This pretty much sounds like the conversation Ben and I have had/continue to have and will have when we get engaged. "Yeah, I can't imagine not being without you so we should probably get engaged..." etc. etc. so on and so forth.
Aw, YOU'RE so cute too!!! :D I can't wait to hear "the big news." You know...once it officially happens. Whatever you do though, don't do what I did and think that 6 mos is enough time to throw together a wedding, unless you're interested in something pretty casual. I guess our wedding ended up really lovely and big and all, but we were reeeally lucky that our first choices of photog/venues/florist/etc all happened to be available on the same day. We def got a few raised eyebrows from vendors when we told them how soon it would be. :/
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